The Power of Kink Therapy

Updated: Oct 11, 2021

What is Kink Therapy?

A sex positive mindset begins with the notion that the wide variety of sexual practices that people engage in are healthy and are an important part of the human condition. Kink Positive Therapy expands that idea to assure clients that the therapist understands that there is a wide variation of relationship dynamics that are also honored and valued.

A Kink Positive Therapist:

  • Understands that Kink ≠ Pathology, and does not need to be “cured”

  • Allows an open space for the person to speak comfortably about their life in all its dimensions

  • Respects the use of preferred names/pronouns

  • Avoids heteronormative language and assumptions of dyadic relationships

  • Continues to educate themselves about the variety of kink and poly relationship dynamics and to be aware of their own potential bias


BDSM stands for Bondage and Discipline/Dominance and Sadism/Submission and Masochism a kind of therapy (when you get pleasure from inflicting or experiencing pain). “Kink” is a general term that refers to sexual desires that are considered by society to be outside the norm.

While these experiences may be considered taboo by some, that doesn’t mean they’re wrong.

In fact, people with fetishes, kink, and BDSM practices are far more common than you think.

Kink/BDSM is sometimes referred to as an “alternative” lifestyle and way of exploring sexuality.


  • Coming out (to self, partner, or someone else)

  • To explore and overcome fear of others discovering BDSM identity or interests.

  • Compulsive issues around sexuality or BDSM.

  • Discomfort with your BDSM identity or wanting to extinguish your BDSM interests.

  • Fear of not being able to find partners with compatible BDSM desires/interests.

  • Identifying or recovering from an abusive dynamic in a BDSM relationship.

  • Guilt and shame about accidentally hurting a partner or crossing a partner’s sexual boundaries.

  • Gaining clarity around sexual interests or types of sensation or power dynamics that would be most satisfying.

  • Mismatches in sexual preferences within a relationship.

  • Difficulty sharing BDSM community space with a former partner after a breakup.

  • Finding a non-judgmental place where you can discuss your sexuality and other mental health issues without being stigmatized or having your kink pathologized.

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